On: The "Curriculum" of Conduct



On:  The “Curriculum" of Conduct
Colleen Rogers

Today I got to sit in on three inaugural webinars that featured the latest strands in “educational trending”.  Every teacher has witnessed many cycles of these buzz-word initiatives. Each initiative is hard to recall individually, but none of them generally seems to last too long. 

My colleagues and I have been trained “soldiers” in everything from “No Child Left Behind” to “Race to the Top” to “Common Core”.  It is part of our accountability to assure that the tenants of these “trending initiatives” are met at the classroom level.  We dutifully attempt to execute each, even if we don’t know how to do so, or we aren’t sure why the directives remain in place.

The framework for each of these “movements” is, in an obtuse way, a reflective mirror of the veiled concerns society has for the  “shortcomings” of our children.  Today’s webinars featured three themes--student apathy, students learning from failure, and teachers modeling humanity.  My takeaway from the webinars...

1.    Students don’t care
2.   Students give up
3.   Students don’t know how to treat others 

Notice that none of the three webinars dealt with the actual instruction of content.  Essentially, teachers are not truly teaching much subject matter anymore...they are teaching students the rudimentary social skills that customarily would have once been parental responsibilities.

Our first presenter addressed student apathy indicators with these pointed questions:

What happens when a teacher assigns a project and only 3/20 students submit completed work?  At what point do students have a “wearing off” of their own motivation for doing things in a class?  What gets in a student's way before they complete tasks? When do students start to “not care” in the classroom?

Our speaker presented the Self-Determination Theory, and the ways a teacher might re-focus students to value intrinsic vs. extrinsic reasons for learning.  The key to doing this is threefold:

1.    Give the student autonomy--example:  let students make independent choices for formatting their class projects
2.   Recognize varied levels of competencies--example:  let students complete projects at their own level of “understandability”
3.   Promote relatedness or “connectedness”--example:  strive for human interactions and a sense of community in the classroom

The goal in the classroom should be to encourage students to thrive without their teacher, and to have their motivation stem from within.  Our presenter cited studies that concluded that by providing students with an overabundance of extrinsic rewards (certificates, trophies, etc.), we are actually decreasing their desire to get internal satisfaction from learning.

The presenter suggested that instead of having students complete the traditional written “getting-to-know-you-at-the-beginning-of-the-year” questionnaires, verbally ask students these questions instead:

1.    What is the most important thing you can learn in school?
2.   What do you think makes other students lose their motivation?

The answers students provide to these questions should give you some essential lesson planning guidelines.

The presenter on student failure suggested working toward and emphasizing skill development. Lesson planning should be directed toward your response to this question:

What do I want the students to be able to do? 

This goal-direction shifts activities toward student mastery as opposed to the achievement of “test success”.

Additionally, by posting a “menu” of choices for student assignments, and by doing project-based assessments, the fear of failure is minimized for many students.  Students should be able to “discuss” their assignment grades as well, having opportunities to re-vamp their work to earn higher scores.  The teacher should rest on the motto “if you try, you don’t fail”.

Our third presenter suggested that teachers achieve more “global competency” by understanding that many students may be in survival mode before even coming to school.  Teachers need to question how students are feeling, and focus on what students DO bring to school, instead of berating their students’ deficits.

For example, a student may be chronically late to school because they are taking their siblings to school while their Mom completes her night shift.  Rather than focus on this student’s tardiness, tell the student that you’re “glad they are here”.

Our presenter also suggested pairing students with peers to help them build mutual empathy.  Align the “social butterfly” students with those who struggle to interact with others.  There is importance, also, in consciously displaying students’ work to help them build self-esteem.  Planning events that are community-based, with students receiving a broader range of accolades for their school work, goes a long way in helping students form connections with the community-at-large.

It is now imperative, according to these presenters, that teachers spend a greater block of time at the beginning of the school year creating a “climate” for learning.  The front-end emphasis on generating teacher-student rapport, instructing coping techniques for perceived failures, and modeling interactive social behaviors for students suddenly “outweighs” the need for outlining content. 

Teachers now spend a greater percentage of their day teaching students “how to become decent human beings”.  What this indicates is the sense that there is generalized parental abdication.  A teacher’s role is increasingly guided toward the stabilization of students’ psyches in the classroom.  Teachers need to make an effort to understand why students “no longer care”, why they are more prone to quit in the classroom, and why they lack the anticipated social behaviors teachers used to expect as standard conduct.
The following article has some quick, easy ways to generate teacher-student rapport with your students--these suggested techniques can be used daily to continue to build classroom connections: 

“Four Quick Ways to Build Rapport With Students
(Even the Ones that Are Hardest to Reach)”

Instead of providing coping techniques for failure, this article includes some helpful ways to assist students in completing their class assignments:

“Seventeen Ways to Get Your Students to Actually Do Their Work”

To demonstrate classroom routines, appropriate behavior and social skills in the classroom, teachers may opt to use the interactive modeling techniques outlined in the following resource:

“What is Interactive Modeling?/Responsive Classroom”
https://www.responsiveclassroom.org/what-interactive-modeling/

Teachers might consider these additional standards to enhance their profile in their school and community:

“25 Ways Teachers Can Be Role Models”
https://www.educationdegree.com/articles/25-ways-teachers-can-b

And finally, if you don’t have a running tab with Teachers Pay Teachers, or are not a devotee of Pinterest--here are some freebie behavioral charts that may be adaptable for use in your own classroom:

https://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com/

Continue to have a great school year!

Image From:
https://www.teacher.org/daily/managing-student-behavior/


On: The Happiness Fallacy




On:  The Happiness Fallacy
Colleen Rogers

I am what they call a dowager, a Debbie Downer, a Negative Nellie.  I do not look on the bright side of things.   I have a preemptive contingency plan for when the “other shoe drops”, because, in my view, it usually does.  It is very hard for someone like me to openly recognize joy on-the-daily.  As I “gain experience”, I take note of more in-your-face difficulties, and I woman suffragette the grocery list of tragedies that have befallen me.  I am a "fake it till you make it" kinda gal

When I sit in reflection, I customarily focus on losses.  I have lost my beloved parents, some incredible grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. I cannot even begin to discuss my rainbowed pets or angel-ed friends without a flow of tears after many years still reigning.  I have daily missed bosses and cherished colleagues I haven’t even seen for years.  I have had little “micro-deaths” from each shift of a job or a home.  It has been a merciless struggle for me to acclimate to new neighborhoods or unfamiliar work sites.  Wrestling with these transitions has sometimes been a brutally tough induction ceremony against newfound expectations.

It is has become a recent habit to second guess the places where I have nested.  I often wonder if I could have done better for myself, or lived more adventurously.  Maybe I should have aligned myself with others who might have stressed me less, or offered me more than they took.  I think about things that have happened to me, and I feel an exclusivity of amplified regret that surely is only mine to bear.  I believe many times that I am solitary in heart-holding these daily “bereavements”.  Of course, I am most assuredly not alone. 

The regretful dowry I bear may not often be public, or visible, and sometimes can only be seen as a glimmer of coined shrouds that only I can count, but my dowry is no more weighty than the offerings presented by us all.

I watch us in our common areas, and I see our situational barbells pressing down upon us, causing our bodies to ground down, our choices crushing us into reactive zombie-bees.  We live beneath a fake whimsical umbrella of our own notions of control.

I used to think that my life would be the result of a series of full-bodied, free-willed choices.  I was certain that I absolutely would never land anywhere without well-considered, cautious deliverance.  I felt that every decision I adjudicated would be a direct bulls-eye hit on a planned trajectory.  I played confident that I would end-game exactly as I preordained the victory of my life to be. 

In reality, I have often ended up with the “Life Of Not”.  This is NOT the job I would have wanted, NOT the house I would have picked, NOT always the people I hoped would surround me.  The evolution of the “How Did I Get Here” autobiography really sneaks up on everyone.  The true trek of a our destiny is actually more like “The Pokemon Go of the Unexpected”. 

The fact is, we never really determine our lives.  We are wholly delusional if we expect to construct a life of our own perfect selection.  Things happen on our journey that we don’t consider--there may be an unexpected opportunity, an uncoupling, an unfathomable loss, some unhealthiness, or a road of unanticipated detours. 

Because we are in flux so frequently, achieving perpetual happiness is a fallacy.  We can’t easily find joy when it falls between the cracks of our own challenging re-adjustments.  Happiness is rarely harvested naturally because our lives are never in corn rows of alignment.  The fallacy of happiness is that we will somehow just fall into its’ state of being.  Somehow, happiness will "just appear before us", like a single four leaf clover in an expansive meadow.  In actuality, happiness is truly a search and recovery mission. 

Every day, we have to seek out tiny moments where just a few things are in place, and in those tic tocs of grace, we see our thread-beam of joy.  The happiness fallacy can dissolve when we pet our dog, hug our child, kiss our partner, or take a brief nature walk.  It is not the grandiose, overt moments of the obvious “special event” happiness that we should all wait to embrace. It is truly the "in the moment" small parcels of joy, those that are on-the-reveal daily, that we should attempt to detect.

We need to expand our vision for recognizing happiness.  We should realize that happiness is often a quietly restorative, surprisingly momentary gift.  What characterizes happiness as time-fleeting and rare is exactly the reason why it is so precious, and why we cannot expect to find perpetual, unyielding joy. 

For those of us who believe that life has left us bereft of happiness, it is truly because we have failed to do our detective work.  We are not discovering our little, nearly untraceable, moments of joy.  We have exclusively focused on seeking something on the "larger, bigger, better" scale.  But, if we wait for the “grandiose”, we will never sustain much ready joy. 

Few of our days boast events like weddings, promotions, graduations, the anticipation of moving day, or the excitement of the "new car smell".  So, it behooves us to take in and requisition something fleeting, "petite", and more sweetly subtle to give us pause and make us smile. Only in these briefly accessible moments will the cracks in our happiness remain filled. When we master this unearthing, something more grand will only make the joys of life just a little more clearly visible.

   
"I'm beginning  to recognize that real happiness isn't something large and looming on the horizon ahead, but something small, numerous, and already here.  

The smile of someone you love.  A decent breakfast.  The warm sunset.  Your little everyday joys all lined up in a row."--Beau Taplin